Forgiveness not seven times, but seventy seven times.
The parable of the unforgiving servant.
What sort of life are we to follow? Not the walls that enclose us, nor solely the Rule which guides us, will make us saints. Holiness is the result of mortifying the passions and of prayerful union with God. Indulging in self-love, lacking docility and respect, failing to love our Society deeply, or maintaining harmony among yourselves --- all of this constitutes opposition to the spiritual life. May heaven protect you against such diabolical evils.
Each day we pray the Lord's Prayer and we ask God to forgive us as we forgive. We have already seen that there are no limits to God's extravagant generosity. "In Christ and in his blood we have been redeemed and our sins forgiven, so immeasurably generous is God's favor for us." (Eph 1:7) We who have been forgiven much by the Lord are now being asked to make this same generosity visible still by offering forgiveness without limits, to live without limits. Jesus is not interested in us becoming bitter, angry, vengeful people because of wrongs done to us. He wants us to be bearers of this generous forgiveness so that we may become more like him. When he asks us to forgive others he is asking us to act in our own best self interest. Lacking the docility and respect that enables us to love and forgive is for St. Gaspar a great tragedy.
Remember: Forgiveness is different from justice; justice may never be possible. Forgiveness does not mean you condone what was done; the injury or hurt remains real. You do not forgive for their benefit; you forgive for your own peace and grace. Jesus has you in front of him and he is concerned about you.
- Whom do I need to forgive?
- Do I need to forgive myself?
- How readily do I carry a grudge?
 from the Second Circular Letter, 1827